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28/9/2021 0 Comments

Gratitude challenge

I was recently listening to a great meditation on Insight Timer by Alex Dudgon, Gratitude - 11 things to be grateful for. It struck me that each prompt he gave me challenged me seek gratitude where I wouldn't usually go looking. It's still very rewarding to show my gratitude to more typical areas of my life - my partner, my doggies, my home, the nature around me - but I thoroughly enjoyed the challenge of digging around to find gratitude in mundane objects and forgotten interactions too. So, to shake up your gratitude practice and challenge you to think harder, I'd like to prompt you with the 10 topics below. You can either comment your answers below, or write them down in your journal as a reminder. Grab a warm drink, get cosy and let's get started. 
  1. Sitting gratitude with the first thing that pops into your head. Absolutely anything at all. 
  2. Sitting gratitude for the last thing you ate. What did it feel like in your mouth? What flavours did you enjoy?
  3. Think of something you're grateful for that's a material possession and why? This could be your car, your favourite jumper, your slippers. 
  4. Sitting gratitude for the last person you spoke to. What did they do or say that you're grateful for? 
  5. Think of something about yourself that you are grateful for. This could be physical attributes, skills or personality traits. 
  6. What is your favourite time of the day? What do you enjoy so much about this time? 
  7. What learning experience are you grateful for? What did you learn from this that carries with you into the future? 
  8. What is your favourite smell? What emotions does it evoke when you sense it and why are you grateful for it? 
  9. What are you grateful for that makes you get out of bed every morning? 
  10. Last and most certainly not least, what was I most grateful for from yesterday?
Some of these may have been easy for you, some may have taken you a little longer to answer. But hopefully what you have taken away from this is, there's gratitude to be found everywhere. Stay grateful, stay present and stay kind. 

Sending good vibes your way,  
Jess
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6/9/2021 0 Comments

How to set kind boundaries

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​Setting boundaries can feel very uncomfortable and usually its that discomfort with voicing them, that ultimately leads us to not follow through with them. But setting boundaries can be done in a kind and considerate way, that makes both you and your peers feel heard. Below I've outlined some guidelines I've picked up along the way on how to establish and follow through with my personal limitations, that have left me feeling more in control over my life. 

Establish your garden
I picked this tip up recently in a copy of Psychologies mag. Finding a middle ground for your boundaries is difficult. Often we say no too brusquely in fear of pushing our limits or we say yes too eagerly, directed by our anxiety of upsetting others. A useful way to tackle this dilemma is to imagine a fence around a garden. Within this garden, is your safe zone - what you are comfortable with doing. Around your garden is a fence, tall enough that people cannot just step into, but low enough that people can see your boundaries. And at the edge of this garden, is a gate for you to communicate and let people in if you'd like to. Healthy boundaries are kind and flexible, communicated clearly and enforced firmly when they need to be. 

Own your limits
This is something I struggle with oh too often. If you're not firm with your boundaries, people will push them. This leads to your resentment and blame on the other party. But, it's not their responsibility to honour your boundaries. There's no such thing as someone violating your boundaries. The responsibility is with you alone - not your pushy friend, annoying co-worker or overbearing partner. Next time you break your own rules, think about why you did it. Why did you check your emails at 8pm at night when you set your working hours as 9-5? Is it because you were worried you'd miss something important and come across as unreliable? 

Disappointing people is OK
Remember to not catastrophise. How likely is it people will think you're unreliable if you're not answering emails late? Does it really matter if they do? We take on so much responsibility for other people's reactions and moods. But, how other people act is not our burden to bear. Stay in your own lane and focus on yourself. You can do what you want, say no and let people down if it's necessary. You will not always please people but that's ok. 

Your boundaries shouldn't make you feel restricted and enforcing them doesn't need to fill you with dread. You may sometimes have to be a little firmer with people to communicate them, but that's ok too. We're all different and some people like to try us or they may take a little longer to hear to us. Engage with these interactions with kindness and compassion. Stay true to yourself, remember to listen to your body and be mindful. 

Sending loving kindness you way,
Jess
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